Matrimonial discords are common, but when things spill out of control, the situation becomes intolerable for everyone. Most couples force themselves into situations like this due to pressure from family, society and a general sense of shame associated with the divorce. Lack of clarity about life post-divorce is another reason to continue with an unhappy marriage.

Relationship like this affect your physical and mental health and well-being. It also has a negative impact on your children, parents and other members of the family. In situations like this, it’s better to opt for a separation or divorce after a careful consideration of various options.

Given the fact that the legal discourse for a contested divorce is a long road, it's better to accept the situation and bury your ego. Ending a relationship with a mutual understanding will save your time, energy, money and health.

With this guide we have detailed all possible steps that you can take to end such an alliance peacefully.

1. Think twice before choosing divorce
   Don’t take it very lightly as it will terminate your every matrimonial right. It is like giving up your matrimonial life. You may miss all those moments which both of you have spent together. In fact, you would be missing his/her care and support. Therefore it is suggested to think twice before choosing divorce. You may share your issues with trustworthy and close persons. Have a peaceful communication with your partner. If you are confident enough on your decision to get divorced, then only go for it.
   
   
2. Keep it secret from neighbours
   The neighbours do have their eyes at your home also. Their comments, gossips and interference might make your situation tough. Resolving the things becomes difficult when it is not secret. Therefore, try to prevent your private issues from outsider/neighbour till the date of divorce.
   
   
3. Have self-control and avoid anger
   Divorce impacts the mental stability of the person. Chances are high that you’ll be becoming short-tempered and agitated in moments. You may start using abusing languages or behave rudely. Therefore it is suggested to have self control in these situations and handle every matter politely and consciously. Take assistance from psychologists or counsellors.
   
   
4. Meditation will help
   Mediation is the best way to achieve mental as well as emotional balance. Try it in such a situation.
   
   
5. Try not to fight at the last moment
   Once both of you have decided to take divorce, avoid any new issue. Avoid any type of blame game. That will help in making your separation friendly and smooth.
   
   
6. Consult a lawyer
   Divorce involves legal procedure since after divorce your marriage ceases to exist legally. Consultation with a lawyer practicing family law will help you know these procedures. You may also have many questions in your mind relating to various issues in divorce. For instance, paper works of divorce, maintenance rights, custody of child, distribution of property etc. The lawyer will solve all your queries and let you know your rights.
   
   
7. Cooperation is needed
   If both of you have decided to get divorced with consent, it would be easy to make a smooth split. Cooperation is required in order to avoid delay or pendency. For instance, in case of non-appearance of one party at the calling date will cause undue delay in divorce. Lack of cooperation may lead to rejection of divorce petition and moreover, unnecessary disputes.
   
   
8. Settle property related matters
   Property related disputes may pop up at the time of disputes. The couple may demand for financial help or some distribution of property. These disputes may go serious if not resolved. Therefore, property related matters must be sorted out at the time of divorce only.
   
   
9. Don’t indulge children during talks
   It is always suggested to parents not to talk or discuss on any critical topics in front of your children. Divorce is one of such situations when conflicts and fights occur frequently. Do not involve your children during such a situation. Better you discuss when they are not at home. Children soak up everything they see or hear. These discussions impact children badly and it may lead to negating their self-confidence.
   
   
10. Make plans for your children
    Don’t let your children suffer due to the separation. Although both of you have been separated but do not divide your love for children. Therefore make amicable parenting plans for your children. Such plans include schooling plans, higher education plans, holidays, vacation, insurance plans etc. You may seek advices from professionals in this regard.
    
    
11. Find positive out of the situation
    Divorce brings negativity around you. It is your art that how you handle such situation and create positivity out of everything. Smile on your face, positive thinking, setting your goals, interacting new people, spending time with kids etc. will help you achieving the same.
    
    
12. Stress management
    Stress is very common in cases of divorce. A sound sleep is helpful. But sometimes, stress may ruin your sleep also. Watching movies, series, play games, spend time with kids and pets etc. may help in such a situation. Avoid contacting your ex-spouse after divorce. Do not keep anything related to him/her in your bedroom. Yoga and exercise are also helpful in avoiding stress.
    
    
13. Take a break from work life
    You might not be able to concentrate on your work after the divorce. Take a break and do what you like when you were unmarried. Enjoying trips, reading fictions, singing songs, dancing, playing instruments, delicious food etc. would provide relief and most importantly, smile on your face.
    
    
14. Spend more time with your family or best friends
    This is the best time to recall your old memories which you have made with your friends and family members. Spending time with your close or best friends will help you forget the current situation. At this time, you need more love and care. The same you will get only from them.
    
    
15. Make new goals
    Set new goals of your life rather than looking at your past. Life without any purpose is always agitating. Since you are now free from any obligation, you may go for your passion. Take lessons from your previous relationship. Discuss your plans with your parents or family members or close friends. Indulging yourself in achieving these goals will bring confidence and mental stability.

Facing divorce is indeed tough for anyone especially when kids are involved. It is as tough as ending your habit. It disturbs mental stability and may lead to emotional mis-balance. However, the above mentioned advice for healthy divorce will ease such difficult situations. Moreover, it will make your split smooth.